Slowing Down: Why Going at Your Child’s Pace Builds Trust

In a world that prizes speed and productivity, it can feel counterintuitive to slow down. But when it comes to supporting your child’s development—especially through the lens of RDI—slowing down is essential.

One of the core principles of RDI is “Mindful Guiding”—being present and intentional in how you scaffold your child’s learning. Instead of rushing to “fix” or “teach,” you become a steady, trusted partner in their growth. Dr. Gutstein encourages parents to focus on building a “safe and predictable learning environment” where the child feels secure enough to take emotional and cognitive risks.

Going at your child’s pace allows for:

• Deeper emotional connection

• Increased opportunities for co-regulation

• Reduced anxiety and behavioral challenges

• Natural learning in everyday moments

When you slow down, you give your child the space to process, participate, and connect.